Full disclosure: In my attempt to help YOU find your strong & kind, I lost mine.
I get sucked into serving others... Sigh. This is why I call myself a "recovering" people-pleaser.

But - the ONLY...

There's been an interesting dialogue online recently about whether bullying can actually end without physical violence.

My thought? It can ABSOLUTELY end without violence. I see it with my clients...

This is my partner Joel.

He is funny, and fun, and creative, and open, and loving, and strong.

And even amidst all of these amazing qualities, our marriage can be quite challenging at times.

Why?

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As a recovering people pleaser, this quote from Rachel Hollis’ book Girl, Stop Apologizing really resonated with me.

It made me think: How is it possible to stop pleasing when we’ve been...

I just got yelled at at the grocery store. Again.

As I was pushing my full cart out of the store, I stopped at the exit to sanitize my hands.

A woman behind me yelled something. Because she was in...

STOP! Just sit for a few seconds and stare at this image.

Now tell me - what happened?

The craziest thing happened to me while I was creating this slide.

You see - I'm spending the next couple of...

When you DO finally use your strong & kind voice - what constitutes a successful outcome?

Something I always tell my clients is to remember to “separate the reaction from the...

Yesterday morning, my husband fell down a flight of stairs and dislocated his arm.
He’s okay - he went to the hospital by ambulance, and, after a few hours of intense pain were able to massage...

I remember sitting in my first solo apartment. I was talking to my mom on the phone.

I asked “who do you think I am?” She answered “you’re kind, and empathic, and...

I just can’t… I just can’t… I just can’t…

I lay under my quilt saying this over and over to myself.

Overwhelm. Exhaustion… Even my fingertips were tired....

I talked with a friend last week who is an ER nurse in a Vancouver Hospital. She talked about how honoured she was that people were grateful for her work, but, felt that ALL Canadians were acting...